Finding Joy in Holiday Traditions with a New Mindset
Struggling with awkward conversations at holiday gatherings? A simple deck of cards might be the solution!
The holidays bring joy, togetherness—and sometimes, unsolicited parenting advice. Whether it’s a well-meaning relative commenting on your child’s screen time or an outright critique of your discipline style, handling unwanted feedback can be stressful. In the video link above I share some of my experiences with family over the holidays.
Here are some tips on how to navigate these moments gracefully while keeping your holiday cheer intact.
It’s tempting to jump to your child’s defense or explain your parenting choices. Instead, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you don’t have to respond immediately. A calm pause can help you avoid escalating the situation. Remind yourself that they are probably just trying to be helpful.
ometimes, a simple acknowledgment can defuse tension. Responses like, “Thanks for the information,” or “I’ll consider that” show respect for the other person’s opinion without endorsing it.
If the feedback feels intrusive or unhelpful, gently steer the conversation elsewhere. For example:
• Relative: “Why aren’t you stricter about bedtime?”
• You: “We’ve found a routine that works for us. By the way, I love your holiday centerpiece—did you make it yourself?”
If a comment crosses the line or becomes repetitive, it’s okay to set a boundary. Be polite but firm. For example: “I appreciate your concern, but this works for us.”
If any feedback resonates, consider reflecting on it later when emotions aren’t as high. But if the advice doesn’t align with your values or your child’s needs, feel free to let it go.
Navigating unsolicited parenting advice isn’t easy, but with a calm and confident approach, you can enjoy the holidays while maintaining peace in your family. At the end of the day, your child’s well-being—and your own—are what matter most.
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